microscope: If I were you, I wouldn't worry about updates. OTA (over the air - from the phone the way you did) can cause you problems. You've seen it happen. You'll get a far easier experience with your phone if when you see an update, you come here and do some reading about it. Download it manually (and the GApps version you need with it) and install it through your recovery.
If the update notification is bugging you, bring down the status bar (swipe from top of the phone screen) and click the icon with three lines sort of like stairs to clear notifications. Then forget about it or come here and do your research before deciding to update. Or set it not to check for them at all.
One of the ways OTA updates might cause you problems is if you are using the wrong (or an old) version of recovery. If you want something to do with your phone, figure out how to update your recovery to the latest version
in this thread (you want the file called 'recovery-clockwork-hybrid-220.127.116.11-u8815-R4.zip' download it to SD, then flash it in clockwork the same way you flash a rom or G apps, reboot, then get back into recovery, and it should have changed). You'll see why if you read the the first post in the thread. Chances are that it will work better for you than the recovery you've been having problems with, and you can use the touchscreen with it rather than just buttons and vol rocker. Or don't bother. There's no need if you're happy with what you have if you don't plan to update again.
I think you might find that downloading a new rom manually and doing a wipe/factory reset in clockwork recovery before you install (followed by G Apps of course) it will give you less problems with your phone than OTA updating.
Just stay away from the automatic updates. Research, read threads and guides, and then decide if you want to update. There's no need to if you're happy with with you have.
Edited by Liesse, 04 April 2013 - 02:30 PM.